INFLUENCING PEOPLE
“Anyone who doesn’t think there are two sides to an argument is probably in one.”
Arguments…they are unfortunate facts of life for most people, (especially for those involved in matrimony) but they can and should be kept to a minimum. Most of us don’t enjoy arguing and the reason is simple. Nobody wins because arguments only serve to confirm people in their own opinions and create resentment. Check out what Dale Carnegie had to say about arguments in his best-selling book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”…
Why prove to a person that he is wrong? Is that going to make him like you? Why not let him save face? He didn't ask for your opinion. He didn't want it. Why argue with him? You can't win an argument, because if you lose, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it. Why? You will feel fine. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior, you hurt his pride, insult his intelligence, his judgment, and his self-respect, and he'll resent your triumph. That will make him strike back, but it will never make him want to change his mind. "A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.
Tomorrow… how to avoid arguments.
WHICH ONE’S THE IDIOT?
No one can deny that behind every argument lies someone’s ignorance. This is why the only way to make sure you get the best of an argument is to avoid it. Arguing rarely changes anyone’s mind, but it almost always succeeds in hurting feelings. Kind of like using the back of a spoon to eat cereal, it’s gets you nowhere, makes a mess and there is a much better way. So, the next time you want to avoid an argument try silence. It is truly the hardest argument to refute. And whatever you do, don’t ever argue with an idiot; people watching may not be able to tell the difference.