Tact- having or showing a sense of what is fitting and considerate in dealing with others.

It has been said that tact is "the ability to make a point without making an enemy."

In the words of Abraham Lincoln... "Tact is the ability to describe others as they see themselves."

Tact requires full understanding and application of the golden rule plus one. Treating others as you would yourself is great but tact also requires a subtle ability to treat them as they want to be treated, not necessarily how you like being treated. And yes, there is a big difference sometimes!

Probably the fastest means of developing and improving upon your tact starts with respect. Respecting others, their opinions and their idiosyncrasies will instantly make a person more tactful and improve their relationships. The other element of tact is embedded in one of the oldest adages of all time.

If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!

Or in the less tactful words of poet Oliver Herford... "tact is the ability to lie about others as you would have them lie about you."